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| Not "you" statements. |
Last week, I overheard a man say:
You know, when you feel like this you want to do something?Um, what? Is this you telling me what I do, or you telling me about you, but as if you’re me? What is this person trying to say? Really?
Keep it simple. Own the feelings: I’m angry when this happens, or I was shocked/afraid/delighted at xyz. I won't be offended, because you're talking about yourself, using I statements. It is clear & simple: other people don't need to translate/decode who you're *really* talking about.
Put differently: speak for yourself. Let other men speak for themselves.
