Here is what I've learned about advice. Yes, you could say it is advice about advice.
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| Isn't this the truth, most of the time? |
- Don't give it. If a man wants your advice, he'll ask for it.
- Don't give it in the form of "Here's what I do when I'm in that situation..." This is really a case of me trying to fix the man, or waiting for my turn to talk. Think about it.
- If it seems a man is looking for advice, I can ask him if that is the case.
- If he is willing, advice can be more powerful in the form of questions, instead of telling. Example: "What do you think would happen if you asked for what you want?"
- When a man trusts me, I may have permission to share with him the data of what I observe. If I'm able to do just that, without the drama & emotional vomiting most people bring, there is power in the purity & simplicity there.
- If a man doesn't trust me, if he doesn't see that I care for him & his life, well...we're both better off if I keep my mouth shut.
Had not really thought of "advice" in that way. I give (and receive) unsolicited advice (the proverbial.."well if you ask me I would....")often without asking if the person wants it or not. I have to think about this more.
ReplyDeleteI catch myself doing these things, too. I've heard it said, "If you spot it, you've got it." That is true for me.
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