I’m a fan of Seth Godin. He recently re-posted about education,
and I read his manifesto. Truth be told, it is a series of blog-like thoughts,
wrapped around a series of themes. And I devoured it. I was intrigued, and
disturbed.
This guy is doing what he was told. |
I agree with his premise that our current educational system
is designed around control, creating good workers—not good critical thinkers,
entrepreneurs, etc.
Upon reflection, I realized that I bought into the line that if
I did what I was told, everything would work out. I looked back at some
painful, emotional situations and realized that part of what stirred me up was
the premise I bought into, and that things weren’t all right. Moreover, if I
followed some of these people, things would never be right.
And I thought about my kids, and what they’re learning from
me. If I’m honest with myself, I’m teaching them more on obedience than respect, more
on step-by-step process than critically evaluating authority, what they’re told, etc.
And I’m evaluating critically what I believe regarding doing
what I’m told & everything will be just fine.
Maybe you’re asking yourself those questions, too. Do you
have a trusted inner circle of men who you can call when you’re down & need
encouragement?
If you don’t, or you wonder what that looks like, why not check
out The Crucible Weekend. You’ll get support as you evaluate difficult
situations, questions, and assumptions in your life. I did, and it made all the
difference.
I really like this. Offering unsolicited advice is a great way to say "I'm not listening to you". People want to be listened to and respected. Give a person control over whether or not they have to listen to what you think they should do.
ReplyDeleteAlso, advice, when it is requested, is best given as a testimony about what worked for me, not that the other person "should" do the same thing. Let the other person hear what you have to share and decide for themselves. If i tell them they "should" do something, it suggests I will think less of them they if they do not do it. It's just not necessary!