You may have read that on The Crucible Project retreats,
participants are asked to turn over their mobile devices. To some, this may
seem scary or uncomfortable; to others it smacks of black helicopters, one world
government, etc.
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| No phone on the weekend? Conspiracy? Cult. Um, no. |
I’m speaking as a man who has attended the weekend and has
also staffed. I didn’t design the weekend, I’m not on the Board of Directors,
and I’m blogging on my own regarding this issue, so this isn’t an “official”
statement.
When was the last time you had an uninterrupted conversation
with someone who had his/her mobile device within arm’s reach? When was the
last time you had a meaningful conversation with someone who has a
mobile device on their hip/in their hand, etc.? When was the last time you were
doing something important, only to be interrupted by a phone call or text? With
the internet in our pockets, it occurs to me it is impossible for us to be
“present” if we don’t exercise control & discipline over our mobile devices.
I am easily distracted. In order to study in college, I went
to the library, and holed up in a study cubicle facing the wall in a quiet
area. Why? There were many more interesting things than my studies; this
provided me an environment to succeed.
So asking me to give up my mobile device for the weekend
isn’t really scandalous—except in the eyes of the world. My life won’t implode
over the weekend—especially if I’ve told people I’m going on a retreat for the
weekend.
What if something really important is going on? I’ve
seen men staff and attend weekends while they needed to be reachable. One man I
staffed with has two children who are medically fragile. His wife knew how long
it would take him to get home, and how to reach a man on staff to get in touch with
him. This man used the same process as an initiate and when he returned to
staff. He was able to focus on his work over the weekend, and his wife knew how
to reach him in the event she needed to.
